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Caution needs more Caution


Everyone might have seen the smoking ban ads and caution signs against drug addiction in public places,radio ads,in between movies in theatre and Tv serials,movies and the internet !

In a Tv show or in a movie now a days they are putting a disclaimer or feeder before a scene where the characters might indulge in smoking or drinking or both !

Instead of using the standard warning that “Smoking and drinking is injurious to health” they can actually put the number of deaths due to smoking or due to drinking in their respective region

We : The Girl Snatcher’s ?

We wake up to the sound of fighting women down our streets. Usually if we snoozed the alarm or miss the morning buzz of the birds ,this is the only way to wake us up, good old quarrel and rivalry for a pot of water in the public drinking water facility in each streets in the locality(usual stuff in Southern India),unfortunate enough it happened to be right in front of our rented premises. We don’t use public facility for water hence we don’t do street fighting for the sake of water with fellow citizens. We were the only group of bachelors in the residential area in there, hence we can’t literally get every benefits of a regular family. We sort of like skip everything between our college timings and the occasional visits to food chains for our day to day needs. Apart from this we don’t get to mingle with the friendly society down below(we live upstairs).Plus no one cares who we are or what we do (typical metro approach).But there are certain aspects that really makes our neighbor really care for us (in the negative sense),we are looked as crooks ,thief’s and other type of anti-social elements (something’s wrong in their perspective).We never realize from where they get these really weird ideas about us! We actually have to cover nearly 20-30 kms daily for reaching our college by bus ,we can’t engage ourselves in anything apart from some assignments or some minimal study. Food breaks and some entertainment takes away the rest of the time. Besides we bunch of five occasionally head up to the terrace for a breezy walk or have a chat apart from other things. As mentioned earlier the problems starts with the neighbours view point and their perception towards us even in general context. As everyone residing are family (No matter what we are also part of family in a different city) with their kids. Youths are generally viewed as irresponsible human beings with no real liking to problem free environment, They are boozers and smokers who might corrupt the peaceful residential area, damagers of properties, a real pain to control and vicious enough to elope with their grown up daughters. Apart from the other really messy views ,the last one strikes a chord everyone s mind and their action in our street in unison as one or the other had a grown-up college going girls as their daughter(our mistake to reside here?).Not really .But their actions sometimes or most of the times makes us kind of guilty enough for some unknown crime that we have seldom done or even thought about of doing it. But the story goes on from the occasional talks while we walk the street s or stay in the terrace for a chat, When our neighbor pops out of Nowhere and reminds us that this is a residential area and there are family living around here and “You are all ruining it with your loud talk and laughs” Didn’t he know this when he beat his teenage daughter or quarreled with his wife in a drunken state, Oh yes everyone can hear the neighborhood brawl it aint sound proof and fool proofed enough to create sound barriers because its way ahead of their walls and it’s called Women harassment. But this goes one on every month and this guy comes again as a saviour of social justice with the same warning message to us. Thats not the end of the story ,there s another family who thought we might kidnap their daughter someday or the other, they kind of shut their windows or give that  “Oh yes I know you” look and pull their daughter in.(how can you not walk or live in the neighborhood)without even any looks about who walk s the street or who talks (act blind concept).There s another friendly neighborhood women who advices everyone to marry off their daughter s ASAP coz of the threat levels from us ,she gives friendly speech and peppy advice s to their parents on this vulnerable topic but doesn’t care much about the actual real thing issue s like their leaking drainage system pooling the whole street ,creating a very friendly swamp zone in the neighborhood. Once in a month this emerges and there is nothing like turf wars among the neighbours ,forgot the peaceful neighborhood s and lot of women and children in the locality ,everyone joins the zone with the high decibel quarrels. We the framed girl snatchers of the street never have cursed a child or harassed them mentally nor eloped with somebody s daughter(beaten them on suspicion) or created any drunken brawl over any women, But the so called peaceful neighborhood had one of the above as their day to day ingredient in their life. Please change your opinion towards bachelors and their lifestyle, because those negative s things that you expect out of us are not an exclusive trait that we alone carry-forward to every residential area but remember that you are all married to a former  bachelor who might be still holding one of those traits that you fear among us ,like your sons and daughter s we are also some families hope and future bread winners !

Note : As told be by Sasikumar : pondatti melayum ponnu melayum nambikka illathavan thaanda bachelors a paarthu baaypaduvaan (Only a man without faith on his wife and daughter fears about a bachelor) 

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